A Swiss Expat Submissive’s Fantasy Fulfilled: Sleeping Beauty Roleplay with a Shanghai Dominatrix

As a professional dominatrix in Shanghai, I am no stranger to unconventional and deeply personal fantasies. My work revolves around creating immersive, high-quality experiences for clients, blending the psychological with the sensory. Recently, I was contacted by a German-speaking Swiss man who sought a very specific and tender fantasy: a Sleeping Beauty fetish. In this particular scenario, he wished to be the Sleeping Beauty in my arms. This request, rooted in themes of devotion, helplessness, and control, presented a unique challenge — one that I was more than prepared to meet.

A Fascinating Request: The Sleeping Beauty Fetish

The Sleeping Beauty fetish is an intriguing and somewhat rare fantasy within the BDSM community. At its core, it revolves around the idea of one partner being in a state of unconsciousness or deep sleep, allowing the other to assume complete control and care. There are multiple layers to this kink, including themes of vulnerability, power dynamics, and absolute surrender. For my client, the fantasy was not about enacting helplessness in a traditional sense but about embracing the delicate and cherished feeling of being adored while unable to resist or participate.

In our discussions, the Swiss gentleman expressed that his deepest desire was to be the Sleeping Beauty in my arms — to feel cared for, cradled, and completely at my mercy, while completely vulnerable and disconnected from the real world. This request presented a challenge in how to craft an environment that would allow him to experience that sense of devotion while also ensuring the scene remained ethical, safe, and consensual. It would require the perfect balance of comfort, control, and fantasy.

A Dreamlike Afternoon: The Setting

On the afternoon of our session, I made my way to his hotel room, where the scene would unfold. Hotel rooms, often transient and neutral spaces, are ideal for creating intimate and temporary worlds where fantasies can take shape. His suite was cozy, yet elegant — perfect for the type of experience we were about to create.

The first step in crafting this experience was to ensure the space itself would be transformed into an environment conducive to the Sleeping Beauty fantasy. I brought with me a selection of elements designed to evoke a sense of dreamlike tranquility: soft silk sheets, a delicate fragrance of jasmine and lavender, and low, ambient lighting that cast gentle shadows across the room. I placed a few decorative touches-some delicate flowers in a vase, and plush pillows strewn about the bed to make it feel like a luxurious, ethereal resting place.

The room was calm and peaceful, the kind of place where the real world could be left behind as we lost ourselves into a carefully crafted fantasy.

The Session: Surrendering to Vulnerability

Before the scene began, I took the time to go over our pre-negotiated boundaries and ensure that my client felt comfortable with every step. Consent is paramount in every BDSM session, and it’s especially important when dealing with a scenario involving unconsciousness or deep vulnerability. We reviewed our safe words and signals, established clear guidelines on how to manage the experience, and discussed aftercare protocols.

Once we were both ready, I gently guided my client into the role of Sleeping Beauty. He was dressed in soft, vintage-style sleepwear, designed to add to the aesthetic of the fantasy. To induce the light, meditative trance that would allow him to slip into a dreamlike state, I prepared a specially formulated herbal tea that helped him relax and surrender to the experience.

As he settled onto the bed, I used soft restraints to gently immobilize him, heightening the sensation of helplessness. The restraints were never harsh or painful — they were part of the dreamlike quality of the scene, emphasizing the feeling of being watched over and cared for. He was not in a deep, unconscious sleep but in a vulnerable state that allowed him to experience his fantasy of being absolutely adored and cherished.

To deepen the immersion, I employed sensory play techniques: feather-light touches, fingertips glides over his body, and the warmth of my breath against his skin. I whispered gentle lullabies in both English and his native German, letting the melodic sounds lull him further into his fantasy. Each action was carefully considered to create the feeling of being completely enveloped in love, devotion, and care.

BDSM scenes, especially those involving heavy roleplay like unconsciousness, require constant attention to the physical and emotional well-being of all involved. Although my submissive was embodying the role of Sleeping Beauty, the reality was that he was still fully aware of his surroundings, and communication was key.

Throughout the session, I maintained constant awareness of his physical and emotional responses. I checked in with him regularly, ensuring that he felt comfortable and secure within the experience. My role as a dominatrix is to provide a safe space for my clients to explore their fantasies, but it is equally important to remain in tune with their needs throughout the session.

After the scene, we transitioned into aftercare — an essential component of any BDSM experience. I provided grounding techniques to help him regain a sense of reality, offered hydration, and engaged in calm, reassuring conversation to ensure he felt emotionally safe and satisfied. Aftercare is vital for emotional well-being after such an intense and immersive experience, helping to nurture trust and ensure the client leaves the session feeling whole.

The Art of Fantasy and Control

For those who seek deep, meaningful experiences through BDSM, there is an endless array of possibilities — every fantasy is unique and can be crafted to create profound emotional connections. My work as a dominatrix is to bring these dreams to life, to transform desires into reality while ensuring that safety, trust, and care are always the foundation.

Whether in the heart of Shanghai or within the privacy of a hotel room, the art of BDSM is about creating meaningful, safe, and fulfilling experiences that allow both the dominant and the submissive to explore their inner worlds. For my Swiss submissive, that meant experiencing the delicate vulnerability of being a Sleeping Beauty, safe in the arms of someone who truly understood the power of devotion and care.