Behind the Scenes: Why I Declined These BDSM Sessions as a Professional Dominatrix

As a professional dominatrix in China, I take great care in selecting the sessions I engage in, ensuring they align with my personal values and boundaries. Over the years, I’ve received a variety of requests that I’ve had to turn down, each for specific reasons rooted in my own preferences and the integrity of my craft.

One client approached me with a request for a smoke session, where he wanted me to blow smoke directly into his face. I declined immediately, not just because I don’t smoke, but also because I have a strong aversion to secondhand smoke. The health risks and discomfort that come with it make that kind of session unappealing to me, regardless of the fetish involved.

Another client reached out asking for a “switch” session, where I would alternate between being dominant and submissive. This was also a quick no from me, as I am firmly and permanently in the role of the dominant. The dynamic of being a switch doesn’t resonate with me, and I believe that being true to my dominant identity enhances both my connection with submissives and the authenticity of the experience.

Lastly, I was approached by a client who requested a couple’s session, where he wanted me to dominate his girlfriend. While I understand the desire for a shared BDSM experience, I simply do not engage in sessions involving the domination of women. I am exclusively focused on male submissives, and I choose to stay within that realm to maintain the level of intensity and connection I strive for in my work.

Each of these decisions reflects my commitment to providing a genuine and fulfilling experience while maintaining personal boundaries and respecting the uniqueness of the BDSM dynamic I foster with my submissives.

Pro Dominatrix Alessandra in Shanghai